1. People who go out of their way to be friendly to mutual friends/strangers
2. People who aren't friendly to mutual friends/strangers.
I do have a bit of trepidation and will make sure I ask certain friends to sit next to someone who may be new. I also cringe when the new people get put next to my "not so friendly" friends. In the end though I hope it all works out. I know that at any party or gathering that I throw, some of my friends will go out of their way to befriend the people they don't know. I also know that some of my friends will only go so far as to introduce themselves to people they don't know and will leave it at that. Actually, I take that back. They will only learn the other friend's name if I introduce them. Smiling and saying hello does not make you friendly. Taking time to sit by a person and ask a little about them makes you friendly.
I never really thought much about this until I moved to Boise. I was surprised at how friendly most of the people there were. It was shocking that people seemed genuinly interested in me. I got used to being the "new girl" at events. Being new in a group is never easy. Trying to find a group of friends in a new place is hard. In Boise, I remember being invited to bunco with 15 girls I didn't know and was terrified. I had to go because I was desperate for friends but I was shaking when I rang the doorbell. Yet there were a handful of girls that made me feel totally at home. There were girls that I really wanted to be friends with. Of course there were a couple of girls who seemed annoyed that some stranger was infringing upon their night. Again, two types of people.
You learn what you can about people. I often find myself talking ALOT about me and not asking enough questions about the people I am with. I try and stop and turn the tables when I do this. You guys know how awkward it is to go to lunch with an old friend when all they do is talk about their life, house, husband, kids and then you leave and realize "Wow, they didn't ask one thing about me or my life." It's kind of insulting.
That's my two types of people theory. I hope to continue to get better at this and to learn about new people that cross my path. I don't want to be the "cold shoulder" friend at a party. I want to be the "oh Becky was really cool. I liked her" girl.